Introducing Your Partner to Chastity

How To Tell Your Partner About Your Chastity Fetish

Here’s a quick list of tested best practices when it comes to “coming out” to your partner or spouse. Be it your wife, your girlfriend or your man, always remember this fantasy is not all about you. It’s about them too, so bare that thought as you read on:

Leverage Reciprocity In Sharing Sexual Fantasies

As expressed in my article on how male chastity can enhance the intimacy and connection in a relationship, chastity can be a positive turning point in your relationship. Becoming a chastity couple brings power exchange into your dynamic, and can significantly better the energy flow between the two of you.

But, coming out in an unplanned way about your kinks, might be difficult. If that’s the case, abandon the step 3 approach, and move onto the next step:

Tell them that you have sexual fantasies that you would like to share with them.

From here, you can either jump right into telling them about your chastity fantasy, or start off with one or two “milder” fantasies that you may have. Don’t overdo it here, this is meant to be a segue for you to introduce the chastity fetish to them.

How To Talk About Your Chastity Fantasy

Now it’s time to share your fantasy with your partner. Let them know that you have always wanted to try male chastity. Unless they are a seasoned kinkster, your partner is likely going to ask you what that is.

Here is your golden opportunity to intrigue them with the idea. Let them know what it is, and that you want them to be your keyholder. And quickly follow that up with how it will benefit them.

You want to let your partner know what things could be like if they were your keyholder. Don’t talk about yourself here, make it all about them so they can understand the benefits they will get from keeping you under lock and key.

You want to let them know it will bring more romance and intimacy to the relationship.  You want to paint the picture that it will be all about them and what you can/will do for them – you can give them regular massages, or do the household chores, or all of the above! You can also read The Benefits of Male Chastity to get additional talking points and ideas.

If your partner is going to be intrigued by the idea, they need to know how it will benefit them. The question is, what are you willing to do for them to make this dream become a reality……? Then that’s what you need to tell them!

Gauge your partner’s reaction here. Are they completely on-board? Are they on the fence? Are they still unsure?

If the answer isn’t “completely on-board”, then ask them if they would at least be willing to try it out to see if they would like it, and how it would be fulfilling one of your biggest fantasies by doing so.

Your partner is likely going to need the night (or a few) to think about it. Don’t be too pushy about getting their answer; give them their time and space.

After a few days, casually bring up the topic again, and ask them if they have given it any thought and would be willing to try it.

If they are still hesitant, ask them if they would be willing to read up on it to learn and understand it better.

Wrapping It Up

It’s best to catch your partner in a good mood before approaching them with the topic of chastity. You can help them create the good mood by doing activities they would like.

Once you have them in a good mood, casually start the conversation of sexual fantasies before revealing your chastity fantasy. Approach the topic with their benefit in mind, get them excited to try it.

If they need additional motivation or education, you can show them the introductory to male chastity guide.

If verbally approaching your partner still seems like an impossible task, we’ve got you covered with our Chastity Confession Letters.