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FemDom (Female Domination) is a vast and deeply intimate practice that allows a Dominatrix to control, discipline, and mentally shape her submissive. Incorporating a mix of chastity tasks, humiliation tasks, public humiliation, and chastity games ensures an engaging and evolving dynamic.
For those Dommes looking to elevate their control, these 10 FemDom ideas will help intensify power dynamics and introduce exciting chastity challenges for your submissive.
Written by: Austin Madore
Chastity Tasks and Challenges
Chastity tasks are an essential tool for Dominatrices to maintain psychological and physical control over their submissive. These tasks ensure the submissive remains mentally engaged, obedient, and devoted to their Mistress, and are the typical framework in which a BDSM relationship moves.
Creative Chastity Tasks to Try:
- Denial Diary – Have your sub write about their frustration daily. This will help also on a self control and self determination level, making initial challenges easier to digest; it will also provide a great reading to tease him in the future!
- Timed Release Roulette – Set up a dice-based system for how long chastity will last. More details on how to play this the right way in the next card.
- Begging Protocol – Only allow begging for release in a specific manner. Connected to humiliation-play, this would translate in making the begging even more pathetic to enhance your submissive feelings of being inferior, exposed, and so on.
- Daily Cage Check – Assign the task to your sub to send you a picture (or more throughout the day) of him in chastity; this could be in the lavatory at work, it could be in the public restroom at the mall, or while mowing the lawn. Have him establish the ritual to please you daily or hourly with a proof of his commitment.
Chastity Roulette. Exciting, Thrilling, Merciless.
Chastity roulette is a thrilling way to determine how long your sub remains locked up, with the hope that he can draw the lucky number, that will allow some sort of comfort. What is it going to be? An orgasm? to be teased and pleased somehow? You decide!
How to Play:
- Create a set of numbered tasks (humiliation play works great here) or lockup durations (e.g., 3 days, 1 week, 2 months). You could write them on colored cards with a number on the front, and the description on the back. These will be the “slots” of your roulette.
- The submissive could know the content of the cards (I think it’s better, so they can feel excitement and worry at the same time), or not. This is up to your own customization.
- Have your submissive spin a wheel or roll dice to determine their fate.
- To make the roulette game engaging and thrilling, one of the set options should be a reward; this keeps the element of unpredictability alive, ensuring long-term engagement and a good reason for risking high stakes.
Chastity Tease Ideas
Teasing is a powerful psychological tool to heighten frustration while reinforcing dominance and making your submissive feel that you have not forgotten of his struggle. Even though he’s not getting any release, not being stimulated and teased may make him feel forgotten in his sacrifice to you.
Teasing Techniques:
- Edge Without Release – Allow your sub to reach the brink but never finish. This is a classic. If you need some creative ideas on chastity stimulation, or how to approach to his orgasm, have a read at our article on orgasm denial and cum control.
- Erotic Exposure – Make them create a database with their very favorite porn. Then, decide when they are allowed to watch, but never touch. You could include some bondage into this, to make sure they stay on point and suffer trough.
- Sensory Play – Use feathers, ice, or teasing touches to drive them insane. Sensory play includes sensory deprivation, so you could be blindfolding them, and allowing them to breathe the scent of your skin, of your breast, of your feet, and so on. Drive them nuts!
These are just a few chastity tease ideas, but the list could go on. Why don’t you write some of your suggestions down below in the comments?
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Chastity Punishment Strategies
A sub who disobeys must face punishment. Maintaining a strict yet rewarding discipline structure will reinforce obedience, or, if brat taming is part of your relationship dynamic, then it will be just what your sub is looking for!
Effective Punishments:
- Extended Lockup – This is pretty straightforward. Per every infraction, add more day to the current chastity period. If this is not enough, brutally double the current chastity period (if this is part of the consent dynamic in your relationship).
- Increased Humiliation – Make them publicly acknowledge their failure online or in real life in an appropriate and safe context.
- Denial of Attention – If you mean to inflict real punishment, and not as a play item, ignore them completely for a set duration. Ignoring your sub can be a very painful experience for them, so make sure you’ve clarified this is going to be your punishment mechanism beforehand. It’s important to set expectations and boundaries always.
- Pain-Based Corrections – Physical correction is the standard way of delivering punishment since the dawn of society; spanking, flogging, whipping, paddling, or often in the chastity world CBT (cock and ball torture) are great way to correct misbehavior.
It’s getting hot in here! We will now start listing humiliation ideas for your submissive in chastity. Do remember that all BDSM, but particularly humiliation play require prior discussion and consent negotiation, to ensure that all parties involved are having a good time!
Humiliation Tasks to Reinforce Submission
The goal of humiliation tasks is to strip a submissive of their ego and reinforce their servitude. It really depends on the subs nature and how depending on their ego they are; to some humiliation is too much to handle. To some others, it’s a thrilling taboo. A good does of open conversation is the first place where to start from.
Popular Humiliation Tasks:
- Writing Confessions – Have them journal about their submission. Similar to the frustration journal, this will feel even more embarassing to read out loud, in front of you, or in front of others too!
- Mocking Titles – Assign degrading nicknames. Better served when (again, with consent) strangers are welcomed to use the same nicknames.
- Public Exposure (Discreetly) – Wearing subtle marks or symbols in public. From the visibile chain or collar around the neck, or a gag underneath a facemask, or very thin pants so that the chastity shows trough. Electrifying and powerful.
- Social Media Confessions – Posting submissive, revealing and filterless affirmations online. This is often useful also because where the submissive would think it would be mocked, often will find support and engagement with other community players and lifestyle goers.
Forced Bisexuality Scenarios
Forced bisexuality is a deeply psychological kink where the submissive is coerced into exploring bi-curious desires. This is extremely exciting and humiliating due to the taboo nature of the game (if you haven’t yet, you should run read our guest post “suck it sissy!”, telling the tale of when a married man was forced to go bi by his Mistress wife, and serviced the handyman).
Ways to Introduce It:
- Porn Exposure Training – Have them watch male/male content while in bondage, and while being teased. Then, acknowledge and make them acknowledge their excitement.
- Verbal Conditioning – Reinforce their role through verbal commands. Make them feel that it’s arousing and not a turn off to you, their inner desire to go bi to please you, or to find their inner sissy.
- Physical Tasks and intercourse – Gradually introduce real-world challenges if consented to. This can be the most shocking and exciting experience ever. It’s a good idea to involve an experienced bisexual man into the equation, to avoid any awkwardness and let him be free of exploring.
Public Humiliation!
Public play does not mean breaking laws. It means creatively introducing risk as a turn on factor, and exposure as the mechanics of the game. With consent and discretion, public humiliation enhances submission and at the same time heightens risk-reward dynamics.
Safe Public Humiliation Ideas:
- Wearing locked chastity in public, such as at the gym, in the locker room, giving him a smaller towel with which hiding it is hard. Or, telling him to try and piss standing at a urinal.
- Secretly writing submissive phrases on their body. Try to write exposing short sentences on their hands or wrists, and send them to the groceries!
- Assigning a silent confession task (such as whispering a naughty phrase in a crowded space). Of course this task is particularly exposing and requires the full participation and consent of your submissive. Remember, only do what’s also exciting and desired on the other side of the relationship!
Chastity Torture for Extreme Control
Chastity torture takes denial to the next level through extreme teasing and physical control. Some submissives have more distinct masochistic tendencies, some others might need lots of gradual training, but torture doesn’t equal pain. Just think about tickling, for example!
Methods to Try:
- Overstimulation Techniques – You can drive the nuts (pun intended) with vibrating toys applied externally on the chastity cage, without unlocking them.
- Cold & Heat Play – When they’re hot and ready to shoot, use sensation play to overwhelm with sensations locked nub: ice cubes or warm wax near the chastity device can pose the psychological thrill of a threat, while feeling the skin of the penis and scrotum relax, expand, tighten and loose up, for a crazy ride.
- Weight Training – A great idea is to gradually add small weights to chastity cages. Ball trap chastity cages often offer many hard edges, holes and design features allowing for a small carabiner to pass trough. At that point, you can add small weights, or chain your boy up the the radiator for that matter!
And lastly... worship your Mistress!
A good submissive thrives on routine mistress tasks that ensure continued devotion. This is great both because every sub needs a framework to adhere to (chastity training), and both because it reinforces the mental conditioning necessary to create the trust bonds and correct power dynamic to make your relationship stronger than ever.
Daily Mistress Assignments:
- Morning messages – expressing gratitude and respects to the Mistress; best served with exposing pictures, such as bowing to the floor naked, or offering pain daily by squeezing the sack in the picture.
- Household chores – performed in chastity. Let them handle the chores, and reinforce their position by being naked and in chastity while they work for you.
- Introducing forced workouts – take care of their physical and mental health by turning fitness into a bdsm task; start to make them feel their body is their offering to their goddess, and enjoy a healthier, happier and more balanced husband or partner.
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