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The chastity experience is unique for each of us. Its uniqueness steams from what you want from it, your expectations. Being a locked male for more than ten years, I’ve seen and lived through it all.
From the very beginning when I was just fantasizing about having my cock caged and throw the key into the river to understanding the reality of having a metal cage around my genitals, and experiencing true permanent chastity.
My permanent chastity story has taken unexpected turns making me realize that what I fantasized about was perhaps not really what I wanted. Today I want to talk about the gap between a fantasy and reality and how I’ve jumped through wanting to be a husband in permanent chastity, considering being a permanent chastity slave for my Mistress and even talking about being a permanent chastity sissy which, in the end, it wasn’t for me. It’s been quite the ride! Let’s get into it and give you the best information possible: first hand experience.
Posted by: Austin Madore
Understanding Permanent Chastity
Permanent chastity is the act of having your cock locked 24/7 (considering unlocked time for proper cleaning and checking), and it’s truly not for everybody. I know most of us start by fantasizing with this, being teased and denied for years, to even never touch your own cock again. While it’s an incredible practice, not everyone has permanent chastity written in their future, and that’s ok.
The magic of chastity is not based on the amount of time between unlocks. It’s not a static choice that you’ve made and then it has to stay that way. Flexibility plays a big role, and communication with your keyholder is crucial.
Personally, I’ve had conversations with my keyholder that have ended in us deciding that me being in chastity at one particular moment of my life could be counterproductive. Chastity, as it should, makes me become hyperaware of my sexuality and the fact that I cannot touch myself.
Having a ring around my cock is a constant reminder of all the things that excite me sexually and how much more I want to be able to do, all the ways in which I want to please her. This can be particularly tricky when I’ve needed to be fully focused on something else, like developing my businesses for our future. By unlocking my permanent chastity lock and taking the sexuality part out, it has helped me focus on what I needed to do instead of what I wanted to do. This, by no way means that I jerk off whenever I want to nor do I do anything without Her permission. We just decided to remove the physical reminder for a period of time, my devotion and submission remain untouched.
The right chastity cage for long term chastity
It’s very important to note that not all cages are designed to be worn permanently. A cage like the Steel Down Boy looks and feels incredible but it might be hard to maintain permanently due to it’s unusual shape, whereas The Vice chastity cages are well designed permanent chastity cages to stay put for long, very long, periods of time. It’s essential to keep this in mind when choosing your cage. Personally, I like to have a few cages to swap between moments of my life. It’s super hot when my keyholder orders me to go get a particular cage, it feels me up with anticipation. And if you want another opinion, check out Master Lupus’ article How To Choose The Right Chastity Cage for deeper insights.
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Best SellerTHE VICE MINI
NEWSTEEL DOWN BOY
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Understanding Your Mindset
As I said above, it’s all about your expectations; what do you want to achieve from this experience? Whether it’s something that you want to do to spice up your sex life, to use during hot sessions with your keyholder, to help you control basic hormonal urges, to deepen your connection with your partner, or refocus your sexual energy into other aspects of your life that can lead you to find any and all ways to please your keyholder, or any combination of those. Try to forget what you have read and seen online and set your intention. Have a chat with your keyholder and don’t play the hero, you won’t be “more of a man” if you’re locked longer (although it’s not really what we want, is it?).
Consider all aspects of your life and find the set-up that works better for you. Perhaps you’ll have a well designed plastic cage for a longer use and a hot looking metallic cage (like this mind-boggling Chainmail Chastity Cage) for session play. As they mentioned in their blog, Taming The Caged Beast: “ A man can wear a male chastity device while going about his everyday business without any trouble at all, but there are some activities where the presence of a cage around his cock can prove problematic. Aggressive contact sports such as rugby are best avoided whilst locked in such a device, for obvious reasons – the risk of it causing injury or even shattering during a forceful tackle is too great.”.
So, think ahead, take to your SO, and remember to be flexible with your expectations.
Unique Considerations: Straight, Gay, Top, bottom..
We go back to the fact that every chastity experience is unique. Being a part of this community is great but we all have different bodies, different pasts, different troubles and different lifestyles. Most cages are not personalized and there’s a certain level of adaptation that comes with it.
It’s a completely different story for a father of two that has a dominant and highly sexual wife, than it is for a gay power bottom that goes to circuit dance parties on a cruise. It’s also different for submissive gay tops, or cuckolds in a straight, bi or gay relationship.
I could keep giving out different examples but you get the idea. Perhaps the father needs a more discreet resin cage that gives him the flexibility to go to work and pick up his child when he gets home while the power bottoms wants a flashier, more prominent metal cage that emanates the sound of a cowbell every time he walks making heads turn and focus on his crotch.
There are many cages available, look for the one that fits you to reduce any type of frustration you might feel.
Have you read our article of the Top 3 Long Term Chastity Cages?
Is Permanent Male Chastity Possible?
If permanent chastity is what you truly want, it is absolutely possible. Some people argue that because of hygienic issues, it can’t be done. In the Reddit thread r/chastitytraining, GilesEnglishCB speaks of his 16 months of positive experience being fully locked and GingerAnn4Goddess says that they’ve had no problem being locked long term once they found the appropriate cage.
Perhaps you’ve also been told that anything is possible when you put your mind to it. I could also add that anything is possible when you have the proper gear for it as well. At Locked In Lust we actively live the chastity lifestyle, and we have gone through this and more. That’s why we have an ample selection of cock cages for all occasions: for the dad that wants to please his wife, the power bottom looking to have the most amazing anal orgasms, the guy that wants to live to be in gay permanent chastity, to the man that wants to become a totally emasculated submissive sissy. Choose what you want and go for it, you wont regret it.
About the Author
I have worn ” The Vice ” mini for 15 days without any unlocking at all. Yes it was doable to do 15 days non-stop with ” The Vice “. Should i wear this chastity cage as permanent device, there are three changes needed for me personally
I do that these three changes will implemented into your coming ” The Vault ” chastity cage.
1. I hope the new ” Vault ” will come with either oval or ergonomically shaped back rings. Round ring are for me tolerable, but in a situation with permanent chastity they will not be comfortable in the long run.
2. If there comes a ” mini ” version of your coming ” The Vault “. I personally would like to see it just a tad smaller, so there is zero chance to get any erection, hopefully also with the anti pullout clamp as option again.
3. In case of a situation of permanent chastity. I then hope your coming ” The Vault ” will feature a barrel style integrated lock, so that you are not unnecessary tempted to cut the padlock, which then will make ” The Vault ” an even more secure and inescapable chastity device.
I have worn “ The Vice “ mini for 15 days with no unlocks at all. It was tolerable to wear with the round back rings. For a situation with permanent chastity I would very much prefer back rings that are either oval or ergonomic in design for maximum wearer comfortably.
Do you have plans to include oval / ergonomically back rings with your coming “ The Vault “ chastity device ?
We love to hear you have had great success wearing the device without any unlocking! For future devices like The Vault, or others, we are planning other ring designs, no hinges, etc. to provide for a more diverse wearing experience to continue catering to all wearers and their needs.
– Joey